I’ve Already Had an Abortion and Don’t Want Another One. What Are My Options?

If you’ve already had an abortion and are now facing another unexpected pregnancy, it’s natural to feel a mix of emotions—fear, uncertainty, and perhaps even isolation. You may question your ability to navigate this situation and wonder about the best path forward.

Remember, taking a moment to breathe and gather your thoughts is okay. Our team at Crossroads is ready to provide the care, resources, and support you need during this time.

When continuing a pregnancy, your options are parenting or placing your child for adoption. Each choice comes with unique challenges, but they also offer meaningful opportunities to shape your life and your child’s future.

Choosing to Parent

Choosing to parent is a commitment that requires emotional strength, financial planning, and the ability to adapt to a new way of life. Beyond providing the basics like food, clothing, and shelter, parenting means being emotionally available to nurture your child’s growth.

It can involve sacrifices, like adjusting your career plans, rearranging your schedule, and finding reliable childcare. However, many parents find these adjustments lead to a deeper sense of purpose and connection as they watch their child grow and thrive.

You might also discover new sources of support, whether through family, friends, or community resources. Parenting is challenging but can also inspire personal growth and a new perspective on life. We can connect you with resources at Crossroads to help you feel equipped for this journey.

Making an Adoption Plan

Adoption offers a path to provide your child with a stable, loving home while allowing you to pursue your own goals and plans. It’s not an easy choice and often involves working through feelings of grief, loss, and uncertainty.

However, making an adoption plan can also be empowering, as you have control over the process. You can select the family adopting your child and decide the level of contact you want to maintain with your child.

Open and semi-open adoptions allow you to stay connected in some way, providing reassurance that your child is thriving. Closed adoptions, while less connected, may offer a sense of finality for those seeking closure and privacy. Adoption is not “giving up” your child; it’s a courageous decision that focuses on their best interest and can bring peace in knowing they’re in a loving, supportive space.

Find Support at Crossroads

Deciding between parenting and adoption isn’t easy, but you don’t have to do it by yourself. Crossroads offers no-cost, lab-quality pregnancy testing and other pregnancy services to help you take the first steps.

Whether you’re looking for support, resources, or someone to talk to, we’re here to walk alongside you with compassionate care.